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The 11 Rules to successful Dadding

    I don't know how many billions of Dad's there are out there in the world, but that's at least how many different opinions there are on being a Dad. While we might be able to reasonably discount a few, every one of those opinions are just that... an opinion and no better or worse than yours or mine.

    So, with that premise, and knowing that some may agree with me, some may disagree, but most won't care one way or the other, I present to you the

    2019 Dadding Today List for Dad's

    First, let's start off with the "it's okay to" list and give yourself permission to openly and frequently exercise these.
    1. As a Dad it’s okay
      1. To say I was wrong
      2. To say I’m sorry
      3. To say I don’t know (however, you should also look at numbers 3 through 7 below)

    Now onto what I like to refer to as the "Learned from personal experience" list
    1. Your wife is always right.
    I'm serious here. Share your opinion but if she is adamant about her position you need to let it go and give in. You have a choice… do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?

    1. Sometimes you just gotta wing it! 
    While your kids may not know it yet, you are not the smartest Dad in the world and you actually don’t have all the answers. So, sometimes you just have to wing it and hope for the best (Disclaimer here on anything dangerous or anything that might end up as a Darwin Award)

    1. Indecision kills! Follow your gut and don’t second guess yourself.
    Related to number 3 above, sometimes you just gotta pick the choice that seems best to you at the time and then move on. Indecisive people make me crazy. Do something, even if it's wrong!

    1. Even the worst plan, if violently executed, has a reasonable chance for success.
    I learned this one from a boss who was a West Point Grad where he was taught that and it has proven true many more times than not. This one's a keeper

    1. If you want a friend, get a dog. 
    Don’t get me wrong, Kids sometimes make good friends too, but not at the expense of abdicating your Dad role. Being a Dad is not a popularity contest and sometimes you have to make unpopular decisions. Kids can find other friends but they only have one Dad. This one is black and white= Be the Dad.

    Now we move on to the more Metaphysical items in our list:
    1. Regardless of topic, do your research, all information is available to you.
    Self-explanatory. Many take this for granted, but if you never had to look for information on a topic without the internet you may not fully appreciate the knowledge that you can share with your kids as your own wisdom. This is the most basic Dad hack, use the internet!

    1. Follow your own path and don’t compare yourself to others. 
    Using your own values or whatever measurement you want, there will always be those greater and lesser than yourself. Google Desiderata for more of this type of wisdom.

    1. Don’t let you circumstances define who you are, own your dreams and plans and accept that nothing reasonable is out of reach.
    Without going into detail here, I was raised in a very poor family. Where I'm at today is lightyears from where I started. I inherited nothing and never expected anything from anyone. Work hard and don’t worry about what anyone else has. Having said that, there are always those with extenuating circumstances, so for you I acknowledge that this may not apply.

    1. The Universe is unfolding as it should, you don’t need to try to control every moment.
    See Number 7 for further wisdom.

    1. Don’t be afraid to spend a little more on family vacations. Plan well but don’t put off significant family trips waiting for the perfect time. 
    This might not be one that you would expect on a list like this but life is short and kids grow real fast! I don’t mean that you should put yourself into long term hock and mortgage your future for a vacation today, but if you put together a plan to pay it off, a little bit of debt will not kill you.

    So that’s my 2019 11 rules for successful Dadding. One final one and that is, except for #2, all rules are meant to be broken.

    What would be on your list?


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